Jannie = Bully

Disclaimer-If this applies to you, you know it and if not think about how you treat the people in your life-look at your reflection in the mirror, be honest - what kind of bully are you?

For the first time in my life I have been called a "Bully" !  That's right - shock and dismayed I am.  I have thought of myself as many things over the years, but this not one of them.  Wow ! me a bully !!! and to make it worse, it came from someone that I have not spoken to in many, many months.  Someone that I extended the olive branch of forgiveness, love and compassion to only to have it thrown back in my face and ignored.

Wow !! oh Wow !! I am really going to have to take a closer look at myself and address this issue so, I looked up the word bully and these are some of the definitions I found:

bully
1. a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.
2. Archaic. a man hired to do violence.
3. Obsolete. a pimp; procurer.
4. Obsolete. good friend; good fellow.
5. Obsolete. sweetheart; darling.
–verb (used with object)
6. to act the bully toward; intimidate; domineer.
–verb (used without object)
7. to be loudly arrogant and overbearing.
–adjective
8. Informal. fine; excellent; very good.
9. dashing; jovial; high-spirited.
–interjection
10. Informal. good! well done!

I agree that I sometimes can be number 4, 5, 7, 8, 9 and 10, but no way in this lifetime am I ever number 3, 6 or even 1 to my knowledge.  

Finding this entire episode rather perplexing that someone thinks I'm a bully-I mean really - and to not even say it to my face sooooooo....here is what I say in return:

Yes, I may be loud, overbearing and sometimes arrogant about things, I am passionate about.  Yes, I am a good friend and good fellow, loving my friends passionately which is excellent in fact in some cases very good.  I enjoy a dashing, jovial, high-spirited conversation as well as many informal life experiences.  My husband called me his sweetheart and darling so I was his bully and he enjoyed it to the point of distraction.  

However, you may not hurt those I love by bringing them into your hate for me by accusing them of bullying you just because your own guilt about your life makes you miserable - on that I might be overbearing.

So today Jannie = bully.  Love me or leave me but leave those I love alone - let go of your guilt and hate for me and let GOD heal you.